My goal for the immediate future is to be more positive with all of them. I think I have forgotten to compliment, praise, and cheer. I don't know if I can blame it on anything - unrealistic expectations, extra stress with the new baby, or the children themselves could all be contributors. However, this time I choose to blame myself. I don't want the kids to grow up remembering how grouchy I always was. Rather than tuck your shirt in--comb your hair--clean up your spill, I want them to remember good job--I'm proud of--great choice--thank you for helping.
They'll still need to meet expectations around here, but I'm going to make a concerted effort to help them feel more loved and appreciated while they do it.
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Which is why you are such a wonderful mom (and wife)
I love you!
My sister gave me this awesome book (since you're an avid reader you may have already read it) called "The Five Love Languages of Children". It talks about the different ways children give and receive love, and also the importance of children feeling unconditional love. It's great - it helped me realize things I didn't know I was doing (and your post is my new year's resolution EVERY year)
I think it's safe to blame it on being the mother of four children. Nobody told you that's when the "nice mother" takes an extended vacation? No one told me either, I never would have believed it with one, two or even three children, but four - that is very different.
Self-mastery must be taken to a new level. Thanks for leading the way!
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